Self Improvement

There are a lot of things which may contribute to possessing a self-defeat attitude. These factors may include stress, depression, anxiety or even an awful life event. There are a lot of people who turn to having this kind of behavior once they are faced with challenges however; doing so will not solve anything.

It will just make things worse instead. Here are some steps on how to change this behavior and exhibit a personality which has self-control especially in times of hardships.

1. Attitude Is Important

How you respond to certain stimuli is the main factor which defines you as a person. They said, you are given problems which only you can solve. This may be easy to say but it is very hard to accomplish. You need to have a positive attitude in everything that will happen in your life. This will require changing your views. You need to remember that how you deal with situations will affect your present and your future in ways you could never imagine.

2. Accept that it’s Your Mistake

Whenever you go through troubles, you will normally blame others for the things that had happened to you. This is very common for those who have an attitude of self-defeat. They are not willing to be accountable for what is happening in their own life. They put the blame on someone else.

If you wish to have self-control in your life, then you need to have a sense of accountability. You need to bear in mind that you are the captain of your ship you must take responsibility for all the actions which you are taking and you need to be ready for whatever the outcomes of those actions will be.

3. Control Your Anger

If you have a self-damaging behavior, you will either suppress your anger or you can also constantly let it loose with no regard to the feelings of other people that surrounds you. Having self-control means that you need to be honest with how you feel and accept this feeling as a part of your human nature. It is alright to be angry but you must never vent out on other people. Learn how to control by finding its source and know how to tame it.

4. Be Contented

Having self-control means that you also have to be contented with what you have right now. You do not have to constantly ask for unrealistic things or event that will not likely happen. Stop dwelling in your own shortcomings but instead try to figure out how you can make the most out of your life and how to reach your full potential.

5. Express Your Feelings

Learning how to express your feelings is a sign that you are starting to have self-control. However, you need to make sure that you know when and where to do it. Unloading your emotional stress is one good way of helping you cope with your life’s daily stressors. You just need to find the right way to do it.

Self-control is one of the various divisions of self-development. It is the capacity to encourage oneself to do the right things in life and curb our animal desires. However, the root of this self-development lies in a strong will power and disciplining oneself. Self-control produces a kind of confidence in us to the things that we think are difficult to achive.

It creates a drive of perseverance in us that make us accomplish our goals. One’s motivation empowers that person and making it possible to accept challenges that assist us with developing self-control.

But, it is important that an ample amount of rest be taken effectively apply self-control in life. An individual should find ways to relax himself. It may be by listening music, exercise and other things that boost up one’s energy levels. This will make it easy for the individual to accomplish his task. For instance, if there is a student who wants to complete a target of completing his entire course in a single day for a particular subject, then he may be studying the whole day. But, this may create a lot of stress on his mind and hamper his ability of learning. So if he would take breaks in between to relax himself then this will reduce stress and improve his productivity.

Self-awareness is the foremost aspect that needs to be dealt with for a successful self-control. This means that one should first analyze one’s own personality and figure out his strengths and weaknesses. After this, he should try to resist the temptations that he faces in life in relation to his weaknesses. This is to say that if one loves ice cream and is used to have it everyday, then he should make efforts to limit it to twice a week. This is how a person strengthens up and develops strong will power thereby contributing to self-development.

So we can say that self-control is actually the willingness to reject one’s own temptation to a particular thing or a task. This brings us to the next aspect of self-control i.e. strong will power. Our will power makes us take a serious decision to complete a task. Most of us have the tendency to make up our mind for a mission, but due to our laziness or desire for other comforts, we are not able to abide to it. The most common example of this can be exercising in the morning, which we usually give up because we do not want to sacrifice on our sleep. This is where we actually understand the essence of a strong will power. A person with a strong will power will give up his comforts and establish his mission. This will power generally reduces in stressful conditions.

Last but not the least, is the aspect of self-discipline. All these three aspects of self-control are however interlinked. But each of them has a separate role to play. Self-discipline refers to fighting with one’s own feelings. In this, one has to discover the actual cause of one’s temptation and consciously negating it by getting involved in other interesting activities. This will in turn, develop a strong will power. Analyzing the consequences, that one’s actions in future will also help in reducing the urge for the temptation.

An optimistic approach to life will surly take an individual on the path of success as when an individual thinks positively then he will have a healthy body and thereby able to accomplish his tasks in a better way.

Thus, self-awareness, strong will power and self-disciplines together lead to an effective self-control and further to self-developmen